quotes

I love quotes -- they can clear away a brainfog that I'm having trouble pushing out on my own and bring a sense of clarity that creates a moment of, "Oh shit, that's so right -- that's what I need to hear right now." Oftentimes the quotes are super obvious things that are floating around the universe -- they are in the thirty inspirational books of some sort strewn about my house that are absolute must buys in the moment but then get shoved off somewhere, which essentially defeats their purpose and all of the sudden they are making the clutter that drives me to buy magazines or listen to books on decluttering, instead of inspiring me to do something utterly amazing. Vicious cycle.

Here is a quote for Wednesday

I am a strong believer in the effect we have on other people, either negative or positive. I hate it when people shit on my mood and I try very hard to remember not to do the same to other people. Its hard work and there are times when you just want to tell everyone to fuck off but when you do that, they in turn get pissed and then they dump on the next person or go home and beat their kids, kick their dog, criticize their spouse for something stupid, or buy a bunch of crap on Amazon.

I'm a sucker for anyone who is nurturing. I purposely go to a certain gas station just because the clerk who works there calls me "Hon." That gives me a big fat smiley face in my belly and the Red Bull I just bought is now sparkly and shiny and super delicious.

I was at my local grocery store one day and there was a woman who works there that was upset because a customer, for no good reason, was rude to her. I saw her tears and said something to her and she was so sweet and said that it really hurt her feelings. I got it. The person probably had no idea that they were being an asshole, just deep in their own world, and maybe they left without realizing that she had cried afterward. Had they known that, I'm sure they would have felt bad. I don't think most people who are jerks to others set out to hurt everyone else is their path, they just don't realize the impact they have -- their negativity, curtness, impatience or hostility carries an energy with it.

On the other side of that -- I often tell my kids (which they hate by the way) when they are complaining about someone during their day that they never know what is going on in someone else's world -- be careful with your reaction. I don't want them to get walked all over but maybe by their reaction to that person/situation they can break the cycle. Instead of thinking of it as being a wimp, think of it as a power position in that you can actually be resetting someone's course of the day by not feeding the negative energy, so you potentially quell or extinguish the crappiness and you, they, or whomever else is affected can move forward in a better state of mind. Our reactions to most things are the only thing we can control. In any position you have in life, you are always the master of your reactions and that's a powerful thing. It's surprising how amazing this capability truly is and yet how often it is forgotten.